How to get your ex back for good!
So, O.K. you're stuck ATM and can't figure out how to get your ex back? Well good news, there is a way and while it may not be a walk in the park, it is certainly something you can do if you want it bad enough.
For one take a GIANT STEP BACK!
Don't call your ex, don't text your ex and don't go around stalking his or hers social networking profile (BTW girls, while I am writing form a guy's perspective this will work for you too). Just step away and calm down. I know it's the last thing you can do right now but if you don't stop all this you're going to make it really hard on yourself.
Now why I want you to stop? Well for one you'll never get your ex back by acting like a needy, desperate out of control mess. Do you get that?
It's not ATTRACTIVE. And while your ex loves you or wouldn’t have spent the time whit you he or she did, this will not be attractive and sexy enough for your ex to come back.
You still need to work on attraction; chemistry and making your ex seduce you. These things never become irrelevant; people often do these mistakes in relationships also. Don't do it!
Play it cool, take a step back and don't contact your ex for a while. It will be EXTREMLY hard but just the same it will be extremely powerful too.
All the things you did and have a need to do will not work if you want to get your ex back. You may want to make „sure“ your ex knows you still love him or her and want them back – this will also backfire. The way to get them back is to actually make them guess if you still want to be with them.
Your ex will appreciate you so much more once you show them you're not a push over and that they can get away with anything. If your ex left you he or she should take responsibility for his or hers actions. Meaning that there should try to win you back not the other way around.
So you don't initiate contact, don't beg your ex to come back and don't tell them you love them.
For now just focus on yourself and how you can improve your life. I know you're feeling pretty bad and not up for anything but there are a lot of things you can do that will boost your confidence and make you feel happy again.
Now you will need to shift all your energy and attention back to you. Don't crawl back to your place and sit there all alone feeling sorry for yourself. That won't do any good, won't get your ex back and won't make you feel confident. Instead just pick up the phone and call up your old friends.
I know you might have neglected them a bit while you were in the honeymoon period with your ex, but that's O.K. they are you friends who love you
and they will understand. This will help you get out of the house and also by surrounding your self with the people who love you; you'll get a more positive image of yourself. You might be feeling bad and wrong after the break up and this is just what you need to put things back into perspective.
Now don't hesitate to meet new people too. It doesn't mean you have to date if you don't feel like it but it may be good practice for you. Since you need to learn how to flirt with your ex again, you might as well get some confidence boost and practice before you start seeing your ex again. Just make sure the other person knows you're not looking for anything serious, O.K.?
If dates intimidate you at this point, that's O.K. too. But don't be afraid to meet new people. They can enrich your life in so many ways and they will stop that awful feeling that your ex is the only person who exists in this world.
Next up, get a new haircut, new image or just some new cloths.
Buy a gym membership or learn a new language. Try a new hobby!
Take a trip you always wanted but your ex wasn’t up for it.
Try sky diving.
Get a dog.
You get the picture do something you always wanted but considered to be out of you character. It may be just what you need today, O.K.?
Spend a few weeks this way – going out, meeting new people, trying out new stuff and new looks, just do things for you. You may find you enjoy it more then you enjoy being in a relations and that's O.K. too.
But if you're still into you ex and want your ex back, then you need to take a few steps towards making it happen. Pick up that phone and call your ex up for a coffee of lunch. Don't do dinner, it will sound to date-ish. Tell him or her you just wanted to say „thank you“ in person and sound like you mean it. If they request more info let them
know they will get it once you meet up.
When you finally see your ex for the first time after the no-contact and transformation period, play, flirt and have fun. Behave like you did when you were on your first date. You ex may want to discuss the break up and do so, but keep it all light and fun. I guarantee you will get your ex back and your ex won't be able to stop wanting to see more of you. Best of luck!
For one take a GIANT STEP BACK!
Don't call your ex, don't text your ex and don't go around stalking his or hers social networking profile (BTW girls, while I am writing form a guy's perspective this will work for you too). Just step away and calm down. I know it's the last thing you can do right now but if you don't stop all this you're going to make it really hard on yourself.
Now why I want you to stop? Well for one you'll never get your ex back by acting like a needy, desperate out of control mess. Do you get that?
It's not ATTRACTIVE. And while your ex loves you or wouldn’t have spent the time whit you he or she did, this will not be attractive and sexy enough for your ex to come back.
You still need to work on attraction; chemistry and making your ex seduce you. These things never become irrelevant; people often do these mistakes in relationships also. Don't do it!
Play it cool, take a step back and don't contact your ex for a while. It will be EXTREMLY hard but just the same it will be extremely powerful too.
All the things you did and have a need to do will not work if you want to get your ex back. You may want to make „sure“ your ex knows you still love him or her and want them back – this will also backfire. The way to get them back is to actually make them guess if you still want to be with them.
Your ex will appreciate you so much more once you show them you're not a push over and that they can get away with anything. If your ex left you he or she should take responsibility for his or hers actions. Meaning that there should try to win you back not the other way around.
So you don't initiate contact, don't beg your ex to come back and don't tell them you love them.
For now just focus on yourself and how you can improve your life. I know you're feeling pretty bad and not up for anything but there are a lot of things you can do that will boost your confidence and make you feel happy again.
Now you will need to shift all your energy and attention back to you. Don't crawl back to your place and sit there all alone feeling sorry for yourself. That won't do any good, won't get your ex back and won't make you feel confident. Instead just pick up the phone and call up your old friends.
I know you might have neglected them a bit while you were in the honeymoon period with your ex, but that's O.K. they are you friends who love you
and they will understand. This will help you get out of the house and also by surrounding your self with the people who love you; you'll get a more positive image of yourself. You might be feeling bad and wrong after the break up and this is just what you need to put things back into perspective.
Now don't hesitate to meet new people too. It doesn't mean you have to date if you don't feel like it but it may be good practice for you. Since you need to learn how to flirt with your ex again, you might as well get some confidence boost and practice before you start seeing your ex again. Just make sure the other person knows you're not looking for anything serious, O.K.?
If dates intimidate you at this point, that's O.K. too. But don't be afraid to meet new people. They can enrich your life in so many ways and they will stop that awful feeling that your ex is the only person who exists in this world.
Next up, get a new haircut, new image or just some new cloths.
Buy a gym membership or learn a new language. Try a new hobby!
Take a trip you always wanted but your ex wasn’t up for it.
Try sky diving.
Get a dog.
You get the picture do something you always wanted but considered to be out of you character. It may be just what you need today, O.K.?
Spend a few weeks this way – going out, meeting new people, trying out new stuff and new looks, just do things for you. You may find you enjoy it more then you enjoy being in a relations and that's O.K. too.
But if you're still into you ex and want your ex back, then you need to take a few steps towards making it happen. Pick up that phone and call your ex up for a coffee of lunch. Don't do dinner, it will sound to date-ish. Tell him or her you just wanted to say „thank you“ in person and sound like you mean it. If they request more info let them
know they will get it once you meet up.
When you finally see your ex for the first time after the no-contact and transformation period, play, flirt and have fun. Behave like you did when you were on your first date. You ex may want to discuss the break up and do so, but keep it all light and fun. I guarantee you will get your ex back and your ex won't be able to stop wanting to see more of you. Best of luck!
